Life Wanderer

“Don’t worry, I’m not lost. I know right where I am.”

Have you ever, at some point in your adult life, had some moment where you look around and think, “How the heck did I wind up here?” I have. I admit it. And I had a similar moment just recently.

I have a four year old who has recently been having some major separation anxiety issues. I don’t mean he just misses me when I’m not there. I’m talking about practically-has-a-complete-emotional-breakdown-if-he-can’t-see-you level of anxiety. If we are at home and I get up off of the couch to go into the kitchen, within 1 to 2 minutes I’ll hear him call for me and say “Where are you?!” He doesn’t like it when he can’t see us, which means school is also difficult now. A couple of weeks ago I was dropping him off in the morning and he said he didn’t want to go to school, which is SO not like him. When I asked him why not, he said, “Because you’ll leave. And I can’t see you.” So I knelt down and talked to him about how that’s okay, because I always come back. While he’s at school, I just go back home, etc. And then he looked at me and said, “But what if you get lost?” Heartbreakingly adorable. I told him, “Don’t worry, I’m not lost. I know right where I am.”

At the time, I didn’t really think much about it. I mean, when I said that to him it meant something. But I didn’t realize how much it would mean to me when I thought back over it later. I’m a planner. I always have everything mapped out, to the tiniest detail. And I don’t always like it when the plans change, but I can deal with it, because I always have a plan, so I can still feel like a control. But thinking back over those words brought me to one of those moments where I thought, “I’m not lost. I know right where I am. But where exactly is that? And how the heck did I get here?”

You see, looking at my life and how wonderfully amazing it is right now, it is absolutely nothing like I thought it would be. In no way whatsoever does it match up to any plan that I’ve ever come up with for my future within the last ten years of my life. And it practically floored me to realize this all of a sudden, but…I’m okay with that. Somehow with all of the changes I’ve had in my life over the last couple of years, and with how caught up I’ve been with my own busy-ness (<–is that even a word?), I’ve wandered away from all of the specific plans I’d been clinging to. But I’m okay with that. Actually, I’m more than okay with that–I’m totally thrilled and blissfully happy with it, because if I hadn’t, my life wouldn’t be what it is right now. And it is many things each and every day: fun, crazy, hilarious, hard, hectic, happy, frustrating..and amazing. A gift.

Its a lesson I didn’t even really consciously set out to learn, but learn I did. Sometimes the best gifts are the ones you stumble across outside of your box or off of the beaten path.

So, no worries. I’m not lost. I know right where I am, and I love it.

Wisdom

So it’s Mother’s Day tomorrow, and I absolutely believe I have the best mother in the whole world. She’s everything I’ve always needed at every stage of my life. She’s strong and determined, loyal, kind, understanding, sassy, the list goes on..

So the other day I dug out my old highschool yearbook and looked up the little note she had submitted for me in the back for my senior ad, which contains some of the finest advice she’s ever given me. And in honor of Mother’s Day, I thought I’d share it with you. Enjoy!

“Dear Anna,

Woot–you’re a senior! It seems like just yesterday you were my little, pumpkin-headed baby girl, and now you are a beautiful young lady getting ready to ‘have an adventure’ and go out into the big, wide world and take it on. The least I can do, as your loving mother, is give you some advice to safeguard you and guide you once you are there. Take these tidbits to heart, and remember how much you are loved and you won’t go wrong.

Call your mother; always keep a globe in your heart in case you get lost; never fry bacon naked; never underestimate the stupidity of another person; don’t smoke; wear a bra; call your mother; don’t put metal in the microwave; don’t cut your own bangs; don’t kiss a vampire; call your mother; always think outside the box; constant vigilance; keep both hands on the bat-rope; call your mother; your day–your attitude–your choice; always say ‘I love you’; laugh often and pray more; call your mother; remember the best things in life aren’t things; play nice; trust yourself; don’t look behind you; call your mother; true love does not come by finding the perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly; tie your shoes; call your mother; celebrate the little things; you shouldn’t always say everything you think; rules are NOT more like guidelines; truth can be diplomatic; and lastly–CALL YOUR MOTHER.

Love, Mom”